Month: April 2025

Are You Getting in Your Own Way?

Are you standing on the hose and wondering why the water is not coming out?

Photo by Markus Winkler on Unsplash

How are you getting in your own way and maybe not even realizing it? My yoga teacher mentioned this image of standing on the hose and looking around wondering why the water isn’t coming out. This was a good visual for me. I often do this! I wonder what’s going wrong, who is making things go wrong, and I forget to take into consideration that I might be impacting the situation. I remind myself to pause and think about where I had impact in the situation. It’s not about blame necessarily. Rather, it is about noticing where I can create a different impact. Pausing and reflecting helps me realize where I can possibly change or do something different next time. I raise my awareness of my role and actions. After all, I can’t change what others do but I can manage my own choices.

Humility is Strong Leadership

Humility is an essential aspect of being a strong leader. Louise Penny creates the ultimate example of a leader who expresses humility in her Three Pines series, Inspector Gamache. Recently, I have been thoroughly enjoying the Inspector Gamache series by Louise Penny. Gamache is often described as positioning himself as a mentor to young folks in his field and teaching them how to be leaders. He is noted for teaching his mentees to say the following at crucial moments in their careers.

I don’t know.

I need help.

I’m sorry.

I was wrong.

-Inspector Armand Gamache

I don’t know.

In my leadership journey, it took me a long time to realize that saying, “I don’t know.” showed great strength. People actually appreciated my honesty in admitting I needed time and space to consult and research before getting back to them. As an educator, I used to draw a small circle on the board to indicate ‘what I know’ and then a much larger circle around it to indicate ’what I don’t know’.