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March 17, 2025

My Path to Citizenship

“In this country, all of us are free. That Freedom Is founded on the principle that this nation is a country of laws, not of men.”-Judge Schwartz

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Recently, a dear high school friend of mine shared a note from her father that spurred a strong memory for me, the memory of my path to citizenship.

Each of us, except for a tiny few, came to this country from other lands. We are here because our fathers and mothers, grandfathers and grandmothers, our forebears, journeyed here in search of a better life for themselves and their children; to find a land where they and their families would be free.
-Judge Schwartz

In 1994, I had the opportunity and privilege of becoming a citizen of the United States. My family came here in the early 70’s from Sri Lanka shortly after the 1965 Immigration Act, the Hart-Celler Act.

February 20, 2025

Antoni Gaudi and Strategic Leadership

“Antoni Gaudí, one of the most universal figures of Catalan culture and international architecture, devoted more than 40 years to the Temple of the Sagrada Família.”

Strategic work in phases is more effective and intentional. I have learned this lesson throughout my career, and more recently, when I visited La Sagrada Familia in Barcelona. We had the good fortune to see our daughter during her semester abroad in Barcelona, and of course, we visited the famous Antoni Gaudi Basilica, La Sagrada Familia.

Ahead of his time, unique. A man of faith, observer of nature and genius architect, Antoni Gaudí has become a universal figure in modern architecture.
La Sagrada Familia

One of the plaques stated that Gaudi intentionally engineered his construction of the Basilisca to be done over many years in phases because he thought people would be less likely to give up on the project, and would be more invested for a longer time.

January 26, 2025

Where do I start goal setting? Deficits or Strengths?

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Goal setting by focusing on your strengths can lead to success. Oftentimes we think about where we want to start setting goals; we tend to think about our weaknesses or where we feel deficient. What if we decided to include our strengths?

A strengths-based goal draws on your natural talents to make positive and lasting change in your life while challenging you to use your talents in new ways.
–Gallup

I found that when I start from a place of weakness that it feels like a longer road and the strategy to get there feels unfamiliar. When I incorporate my strengths, the skills and qualities that I practice often and come naturally to me, the goal feels more reachable.

For example, I find the marketing aspects of running a coaching business to be an area that I want to grow. I identify this as an area that I do not have a lot of practice and experience and where I need to increase my skills.

December 19, 2024

Practice Stillness

What’s your stillness practice?

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During this time of year, possibly packed with family events, time with friends, and work colleagues, travel and so much more it can be hard to find a moment to be still. Do you have a stillness practice that works for you during this busy holiday and new year?

Being still can look different ways. I joined a meditation group a few years ago and we practice together in a community led by a beloved and skilled teacher most weekday mornings. I also enjoy a quick quiet moment first thing in the morning in bed, a time for gratitude and a big stretch to start the day. This lasts just a minute or two. I also enjoy the quiet time before sleep, reading a book, reflecting on the day. Some of my ‘stillness’ practices require movement, a type of mindful movement that allows me to connect with my body or nature.

December 3, 2024

ACC ICF Certification

I am excited and proud to announce that I received my Associate Certified Coach Accreditation (ACC) from the International Coaching Federation (ICF). Through my educational training at the Berkeley Executive Coaching Institute, 100+ coaching hours, and dedicated mentor coaching, I demonstrated knowledge and emerging proficiency in the application of the ICF Core Competencies, Code of Ethics, and fundamental definition of coaching.

Earning this credential requires a deep commitment to high ethical standards and proven professional competence, validated through rigorous assessment. My journey has been transformative, allowing me to grow tremendously in my skills, mindset, and approach as a coach. Coaching beautifully interweaves my experiences as an educator, parent, and partner, creating a unique lens through which I support client growth.

I am grateful to all my teachers, coaches, mentors, and clients who have been part of this incredible journey. As I continue to develop my practice, I look forward to learning and growing with each new and returning client.

November 6, 2024

Sitting at the Water Hole

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I sit at the water hole and let my thoughts come to me.

Sometimes, I feel like my thoughts are chasing me and they keep finding me. Gayathri Narayanan, my meditation teacher, encouraged us to ‘sit at the water hole’ and wait for our thoughts to come to us. She said that her teacher, Gil Fronsdal, talked about it in terms of being a wildlife photographer. You could either follow the footprints and chase the wildlife around their territory or you could simply sit at the water hole knowing all animals will eventually need to drink. The first helpful step for me is to stop chasing my thoughts and stop letting them chase me. I sit at the water hole and let them come to me.

As my thoughts come to me, I label them. Is it useful? Is it pleasant? Unpleasant? Neutral? These questions have been helpful to me as I navigate times in my life that consume my thoughts.

October 17, 2024

Name, Claim, Aim

My son named, claimed, and aimed his strengths to climb to the top, and we can do that as leaders.

Focusing on your top 5 strengths in your Clifton Strengths Assessment can be powerful! In my coach certification training through Gallup, I learned to help clients name, claim, and aim their strengths. My son is a climber. I imagine he uses a similar tactic when approaching a climb. He knows what he is good at. He looks for spaces and grips where he can leverage his strengths. He aims his abilities and skills to get to the top of the climb.

When you name your strengths, you take a deep dive into how they show up for you and how you define each one in your life. It is important to think about what each one means to you. Self assurance can be defined differently for different individuals. Some folks might define self assurance as an extrovert who likes to take bold risks.

September 5, 2024

Balancing is a Series of Falls

What would it look like to view falling as a part of balancing, mistakes as a part of learning and growing, and a necessary means to an end?

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Balancing is a series of falls. My yoga teacher said something about how balancing is just the process of falling in and out over and over again. While I wobbled slowly in tree pose, I had a light bulb moment. Balancing is just a series of falling in and out. Someone rarely balances right into a tree pose. You need to ground yourself, ready your limbs, fall in and out of balance, practice a lot, and reflect!

When I taught at an independent school in Marin County California, there was a class called Energy Time, a sort of combo of meditation and Aikido. At that time, an experienced and skilled teacher taught us to fall and get back up.

August 14, 2024

Understanding the Shadow Side of Your Strengths

Do you know the shadow side of your strengths?

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One of the most intriguing parts of learning about my strengths was also learning about the blind spots or as I like to think of them: the shadow side. As I read about the blind spots in my strengths report, I felt as though my husband and children wrote the statements because they are the people who know me best. The statements spoke the truth and were such keen observations. For example, discipline is one of my top ten strengths. I bring order to processes and see the details, I am prepared, and the shadow side or the barrier is that I tend to be rigid. My family knows my shadow side very well!

Paying attention to your strengths is important. Reflecting on what happens when we lean too far into those strengths without reflection is vital.

July 29, 2024

Leveraging Your Strengths

Leverage your strengths to discover your full potential.

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Leverage your strengths to discover your full potential. When I was new to teaching, I used to think of strengths and weaknesses as two different things on opposite sides and disconnected from one another. Your strengths were in one silo and your weaknesses in another. As I gained more experience in life and as a teacher, I realized that our strengths can be used to leverage our areas of growth. Strengths and areas of growth are connected. This helped me immensely as a teacher of young children. Working with a student’s strengths builds confidence, a clear understanding of how they learn best, and a way to influence their areas of growth.

As a student this summer these ideas were reinforced when I completed my training as a Clifton Strengths Finder Coach. Before the course, I took the Clifton Strengths Assessment and learned about my top 10 strengths in depth.